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Frequently Asked Questions
What are your fees?
I offer an initial free phone consultation to answer questions and determine if I would be a good fit to work with you. You can book this session directly here or email me with a request for a phone call at schedule@lovescape.us.  Please be sure to include good days and times for us to speak, and I will email you to find a mutually convenient time to talk.

Once I start working with clients, my fee is $150/hour.

Does online counseling really work?

Most of us probably imagine counseling sessions taking place in an office with a couch and a chair. But HIPAA compliant video platforms offer the privacy, comfort, and convenience of having sessions from your home or other chosen location. For couples especially, the convenience of not having to travel to an office, the anonymity of not having to sit in a waiting room, and the privacy and ease of being in a familiar environment as you talk about deeply personal and painful topics can make online sessions preferable to in-office sessions. Virtual sessions also allow clients to choose the best professional for them, not just the best one whose office is geographically accessible.

Does RLT work for unmarried couples, LGBTQ couples, or other less traditional relationships?
Absolutely. Relationality is the key to all human connection. The issues that challenge relationships are fundamentally the same regardless of sexual orientation, gender identity, or marital status.
Do you work with single people?
Yes. Relational Life Therapy is about relationality, and there is no more fundamental relationship than each of our own relationships with ourselves. Also, there are aspects of relationality we can work on that will help you show up differently in your relationship that may produce drastic change, even if your partner does not wish to participate.

Additionally, If you would like to work on the core elements of relationality: self-esteem, healthy boundary, and limit setting, experiencing emotions and expressing them appropriately, standing up for yourself with loving firmness, and dealing with conflict, then RLT Therapeutic Coaching can help.

What if I’m interested in RLT Therapeutic Coaching but my mate won’t come. Can RLT help?
Relational Life Therapy is most efficient and effective when couples participate together. Still, if you are seeking to improve your relationship and your partner refuses to engage in the process, I can work with you to help you to work on your part of the relationship and how your relationship to yourself is impacting your relationship with your partner.
Do you accept insurance?
No. However, there are some benefits of not using health insurance, most significantly being privacy. Because I am not submitting paperwork to an insurance company, there will be no diagnosis codes, forms, or medical records of our work submitted to any agencies. Your personal issues are only documented in my personal notes which will never be shared with anyone, and never linked to your medical record. This helps many people feel more comfortable sharing their most private and difficult struggles.
Are there people for whom RLT doesn’t work?
No therapy works for everyone. Relational Life Therapy is most effective when couples are motivated to change. Some couples start RLT Therapeutic Coaching with one motivated partner and another more ambivalent partner. RLT can be highly effective in helping ambivalent partners move into clarity. With that said, certain preconditions must be resolved before we can start RLT Therapeutic Coaching. If one or both partners suffer from an untreated serious psychiatric condition, active substance abuse, or if either partner is currently acting out physically (violence), RLT Therapeutic Coaching cannot commence until these issues are addressed.
How can I learn more about Relational Life Therapy and Terry Real?

This one-hour podcast  gives a fantastic introduction to Terry Real and Relational Life Therapy.  For a more in-depth exploration, check out Terry Real’s books.

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